if love was the answer, would u please rephase yr question?

i have very few close friends, but many hello n goodbye acquaintances. how i define close friend is someone i would call immediately to share the good news if say i got a job promotion or won the lottery. i lost a few due to stupidity (that part i will come to later) but i also concluded, though im not friendship expert, that frens need a certain chemistry to keep/hold the relationship.



thats the stupidest thing i ever read, i hear u say. well i guess u r kinda right.



i have known alvin, my bestest non gay mate dude, since 1998 and though our daily emails (amounting a whopping 1000 in my 3 yrs in perth) the friendship happily sailed thru all this years. and looking back he wasnt me closest mate among the gang but i suppose others (n myself) got lazy and the frequencies of exchanges got lesser n lesser till good friends slowly dissolve into strangers. but when it comes to him, that dude's emails came fast n furious.



i printed some of the emails out and binded them into a book, a bit like copying the diary of anne frank, i fliiped thru it occasionally and marveled at the things that bothered us so long ago; mainly girl issues. some were funny, some were heart breaking,



eugene the toad/frog is another one who has been stealing horses with me since college days, i cringed at our old photos and the crap we used to talk about. during the yrs i was away he was the only one (beside my family) who bothered to send snail mail. bless his heart.


i truly believe in platonic friendship, just take a look at my 3 beloved ex housemates; kel, mich n jen.

we often talked abt going back to perth on a road trip together and visit our old house at slater court.

that brings to the main point today: can ex-es remain good friends? as in, u will still hang out , heck u will even intro ur new beau to yr partner during dinner n meant it in a non vicious way. personally i think ppl whom u once court or courted u can change to great buddies, i have numerous such gal mates.

but with my ex? lemme count with my fingers: personally, none. zip. i dun think im that big hearted. even now when i have a band around my finger i dun find the tot of being sandwiched between the queen n some ex not very comforting.

anyway was listening to new order's turn my way n gosh instantly i tot of this gal i once wooed in 2001. it is amazing how much a mere song could re-evoke vivid memories which i tot has been lost 4 good. she worked in bodyshop at j8 and on hindsight i dint believe i got so much balls to approach her n gave her my hp. horror upon horror, she did texted me after a few days. of cos thing dint out well, we dated but it kinda fizzled.

stories to share? tell me. leave yr comments.